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作为一个有妹妹的哥哥,在爸爸的观念下,我总是能够感到妹妹的不公平。
有时候我很好奇,重男轻女传宗接代是传统观念,是封建思想,可是封建思想和传统观念里明明也有做坏事要被雷劈死、害人要遭报应之类的那些重男轻女到赶走没生儿子的媳妇,甚至连着女儿一起不管不顾的人,他们的封建传统没有被雷劈遭报应这种观念的?真神奇。
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“姊妹兄弟皆列土,可怜光彩生门户。遂令天下父母心,不重生男重生女。”“生男勿喜生女勿悲,独不见卫子夫霸天下”。即便是汉唐这样的男权封建社会,因女而盛的个例也能够给人们这样的思想冲击。
个人认为,这足见什么Y染色体传承,都是虚的,重男轻女本质还是趋利。所以我对未来重男轻女观念的弱化甚至消失,还是很乐观的。中国的传统有好有坏,可有人就是只继承坏的一面,这种不叫传统,叫恶毒。
一个朋友的事。这朋友的爷爷奶奶和爸爸都重男轻女,非常想要个能传宗接代的儿子。结果她妈妈生了她,是个女儿。
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她得了一种病,说严重不严重,说轻不轻,很神奇。就是不治的话很难活到成年,但是隔三差五的去医院看看,父母多费点心日常中遵医嘱,就能痊愈。一种很罕见的病,我就不方便提了
然后她妈妈担心她是个女儿,身体又不好,怕被丈夫家赶走,就一心想再生一个。结果她爷爷奶奶和爸爸强烈反对。因为家里经济并不宽裕,如果生了二胎,那么她的病就不能得到很好的治疗了,她爸说“咱家就这点钱,再生一个,女儿的病治还是不治,难道随她死啊?”
然后她家就她一个,现在快30了,过得很好。
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她说她爷爷奶奶和爸爸传宗接代的思想仍然很严重,想要她多生一个孩子跟她家姓。她爷爷奶奶和爸爸仍然很遗憾没有生个儿子,仍然觉得传宗接代很重要,但从没觉得可以为了传宗接代而不给她看病。
这个时候好好劝劝爸爸。
001.女儿是小棉袄更贴心
女孩子感情更细腻,尤其是自己结婚身为人母以后,会更早理解父母,体贴妈妈。现实生活中,不得不说相对而言,家有女儿的老人更孝敬。
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002.满足少女时代的梦想
相信各位女性朋友少女时代都要自己的小秘密,公主裙或是洋娃娃等等。你可以随心打扮女儿,让她每天都萌萌哒。
003.终身大事好解决
大家都知道,中国现在男多女少婚嫁比例失调,所以男人讨老婆不容易。而且在如今的环境中,男人娶老婆成本高,压力一年更比一年大,房车、彩礼都是事儿。很多时候,结婚花费都是父母出。如果家里是个女儿,担子要轻多了。
老人重男轻女小助手支招:
既然问题已经出现,那么我们要想办法解决。老人若是重男轻女,此观念往往根深蒂固,想要改变几乎没可能,千万别较真。建议大家尽可能沟通、理解,若并无卵用,“相敬如宾”好了。也请注意两个方面:保持自身素质,避免争吵。
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老公态度很关键
女儿是你和你家老公的二人结晶,也是你们母女最亲密的人。他的态度直接可决定事情的走向。此时最好由你的老公出面,由他来解决效果要好得多,也避免发生家庭矛盾,否则为难的也是你老公。相信他可以保护你们娘俩吧!
坚定信念
现在年轻的妈妈对于孩子的性别看的没那么重,大家可别被老人守旧的思想影响带偏了。男孩、女孩都是父母的天使,何况女儿要富养,不要吝啬你的疼爱。若是家中有俩宝应一视同仁,不要偏心哟。
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偶尔装糊涂
有的人天生喜欢当领导者,特别是长辈。你既然心中明白公婆不喜欢女孩子,此时你最好装作不知道。多带女儿去看望他们,让他们多多相处,时间长了感情自然会加深。你还可以向婆婆请教如何怎么带孩子,一般来讲她不会拒绝你,时间久了慢慢就会接受了。
最好别和公婆同住
为什么这么做呢?这主要是为了女宝宝考虑,若是她长期处在被嫌弃的家庭环境中,势必会影响她的情绪和性格发展,不利于快乐成长。为了减少伤害,还是和公婆分开为好。
有些父母的确重男轻女,甚至严重到只对自己的儿子好,对女儿却缺乏关心和爱护。我不知道你现在多大年纪,父母做的再不好再不对,他们都是你最亲的人,是他们给了你生命,而且将你养大成人,这份恩情是我们这些做儿女的一辈子都还不完。所以,即使你的爸爸重男轻女,你也不要去责怪他,做好一个女儿该做的就好。
作为固有的观念,你很难轻易说服他改变。只能好好地做对自己,让自己变得更优秀,使你父母另眼相看。
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