A, keep and raise the child's purpose and the object:
At China, family point of departure that keeps and raise the child basically is has no child and hope earnestly the child can bring to satisfy and happiness, more what to pay attention to is the one who keep and raise is personal to acquire the happiness with family happy.This with China of development condition and traditional idea are directly related.China keeps and raise the circumstance of the family is mainly" not filial have three, have no after is big" in China because husband and wife's both parties did not grow the child,, Confucius 2,000 an outworn words of year agos return to many persons up to now believe in.
However the American's idea is really not so.The American family keep and raise the child's family and can is divided into three kinds of circumstances mostly:One is to can't grow;Two is an oneself to have the child, but the family condition is wealthy, again keeping and raise the Chinese child;Three is have the stable work of middle age single is female, do not think the matrimony, but and then hope to have own child.They keep and raise the child's main purpose is to give these childs who loses the family warm, giving them a happiness of house.An American mother say" would rather love than increase a kid for this world again a have already existed and hoped earnestly family of kid".This words keeps and raise the best summary of child's purpose to the American family.The children got care and love of the close relatives and the warmth of the families there at the foreign foster father mother;And the foreign family also passed the child to understand China morely, being in love with China.
Two, the object that keep and raise:
In keeping and raise the object, the local family keeps and raise the child what to consider is the sex that keeps and raise the object first, the big part will choose the boy, wanting to choose the next in order beautiful, cleverness of, certainly certain if the child of the normal health.
But the child whom many American family keep and raise is the body not sound or the child of the health, but some wounded and disabled or have the paroxysm the child, among them have a pair of eyes to become blind of, there is disable and sick body, suffering from the congenital heart attack of, have some the weak-minded mentally retarded son;The Xia Yan, an eyes become blind.A rightness of American husband and wife kept and raise her, before return to country to carry out to keep and raise the procedure pleased for the child blind teach the teacher.
Three, keep and raise the child behind of consciousness development:
At the domestic, keep and raise the family to cover to the child's birth strict and strict solid solid, fear the child to know, the family that have does not hesitate to move the house, changing the new surrounding.The purpose of do like this fears that the child has the very excessive viewpoint after know living a life time ownly nothing but, worrying that the child will look for own parents but cause own bring up to pay the east to flow hard.
But after keep and raise child, the American family will not only in the mainland the Chinese consciousness that train the children, they but also usually make use of the holidays to take the child to China to search for root.In 1997, American, Mrs. Johnson, kept and raise a forsaken young girl Helen of the Liu Zhou in Chinese Guangxi.For helping Helen to look for the natural mother,2004, Mrs. Johnson takes the road that Helen steps on to return to country.Helen takes a trip to expect very much to this, she say:" I am too agitated to all can not sleep to feel in the evening quite a few." The thus foreign family of Mrs. Johnson of elephant still has many, they not only did not conceal the true facts toward child, return the active periodical district wears the child to return to China, letting them know own motherland, home town morely, coming close the China culture more closely.
A, keep and raise the kid's purpose and object:
At China, the family point of departure which keeps and raise a kid basically has no kid and hopes earnestly the kid can bring satisfy with happiness, what to pay attention to more is to keep and raise personal with the family acquire happiness happy.This is directly related with the development condition of China and traditional idea.China keep and raise homely circumstance mainly is because husband and wife both parties didn't grow a kid, but in "not filial have three, is big after have no" in China, Confucius 2,000 year agos an outworn words up to now still is believe in by many people.
However the American's idea really not so.American family's keeping and raise the kid's family mostly can is divided into three kinds of circumstances:While being to can't grow;Two is oneself to have a kid, but the family condition be wealthy and again keep and raise a Chinese kid;Three is that the middle age single which there is stability work is female, don't think matrimony, but and then hope to have an own kid.Their keeping and raise the kid's main purpose is to these to lose a homely kid warmth and give them a happy house.An American mother says "would rather love 1 than increase a kid for this world again have already exist and hope earnestly a homely kid".This sentence keeps and raise best summary of kid's purpose to the American family.Children at foreign foster father female got warmth of the close relatives' care and love and family there;And the foreign family also passed a kid to morely understand China, fall in love with China.
Two, the object keep and raise:
In keeping and raise object, the local family keeps and raise a kid what to consider is the sex which keeps and raise object first, greatly the part will choose a boy and secondly want to choose beautiful of, cleverness of, if certainly must normally healthy kid.
But many American families keep and raise of the kid doesn't be a body sound or healthy kid, but some wounded and disableds or have the paroxysm the kid, have a pair of eyes to become blind among them of, there is disable and sick body of, have already suffered from a congenital heart attack of, have some weak-minded mentally retarded son;Summer Yan, the congenital double eyes become blind.A rightness of American husband and wife kept and raise her, before coming to Hua to carry out to keep and raise a procedure pleased for the kid blind teach a teacher.
Three, keep and raise consciousness development in kid:
At the domestic, keep and raise a family to the kid's birth Wu get strict actually solid, fear a kid to know, the family have doesn't hesitate to move a house and change new surrounding.The purpose which does so nothing but fears the kid has very excessive viewpoint after know ownly living a life time, worry that the kid will look for an own parents but cause to bring up to pay east to flow ownly and hard.
But after keep and raise kid, American family would not only train the children's Chinese consciousness in the mainland, they still usually make use of holidays to take a kid to go to China to search for root.In 1997, American, Mrs. Johnson, kept and raise Chinese Liu3 Zhou in Guangxi's a forsaken young girl Helen.Look for natural mother, 2004 for the sake of help Helen, Mrs. Johnson took Helen to step on to return to the road of country.Helen expects very much to this trip and she say:"I too agitated quite a few evening cans not sleep to feel."Elephant Mrs. Johnson so of the foreign family still has a lot, they didn't not only conceal true facts toward the kid, also the actively periodical district wear a kid to return to China, let them morely know an own motherland, home town and more closely come close China culture.
One, the adoption of a child's purpose and object :
In China, the adoption of a child of the family is basically no children are also eager to bring their children to meet and happier and more focused on the adoption of individual and the family was happy. With China's development conditions and the traditional concepts of direct relevance. China adoptive family is mainly because the couple did not have children, while in China, "a three unfilial, to be without much," Sage two years ago in a banal yet to reach many people believe.
However, the concept of the Americans is not the case. American families adopt a child in the family can be roughly divided into three types : one is unable to have children; Yes they have two children, but affluent family, adopting Chinese children again; 3 is a stable middle-aged single women, do not want to marry, but wish to have their own children. Their adoption of a child's main aim is to give these children have lost their family warmth and give them a happy home. One mother said, "give the world with an increase in the child, it is better to love one already exists but longs for a family child." This sentence is to American families adopt a child purpose best summed up. The children of foreign parents in a family where love and family warmth; Foreign families have adopted children to know more about China, fell in love with China.
Second, adoption of object :
The object of adoptions, domestic adoption when the child first consideration is the adoption of gender targets, the majority of boys will choose, and secondly to choose pretty, smart, of course, must be normal and healthy children.
While many American families adopted child is not able-bodied or health of the children, but some disability or disease of children, including the blind, physically disabled, suffering from congenital heart disease, some mentally handicapped imbecile; Xia Yan, congenital blind. An American couple adopted her in China before the adoption formalities requested for the children on a blind education teacher.
3, after the adoption of a child's awareness building :
In China, adoptive families of children born to obscurity carefully, fearful know that some families at the house relocation and new environment. The purpose of this is nothing but fear that the children are aware of their health after the WHO have too many thoughts, worrying that their children find their parents and lead their own hard upbringing in vain.
The adoption of a child, American families will be not only in the local foster children's sense of China, they also often used to take their kids to leave China Root. In 1997, Americans adopted Mrs. Jensen China's Guangxi Liuzhou an abandoned girl Helen. To help find the mother Helen, in 2004, with his wife Helen Jensen stepped on the back road. Helen on this trip very much look forward to, she said : "I was so excited that for several nights I could not sleep." Mrs. Jensen as such there are many foreign families, they did not conceal the truth to the children, but also take the initiative to take their children regularly to return to China and let them more understanding of their motherland, home to more closely close to the Chinese culture