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这是忌娘家们!一月有个正月十五,二月有个二月二,三月有个三月三,四月有个清明节,五月有个端午节,六月有个六月六,七月有个七夕节,八月有个十五,九月有个重阳节,十月有个十月一(阴历),十一月有个中元节,十二月有个立冬,这是古代约束已婚妇女的,不可以在娘家过满月。但是现代社会一般只忌两个,一个是三月三忌丈夫,还有七夕节忌自己的,剩下的基本上都是舅舅和老公公和婆婆的了,例如立冬不忌娘家们光死老公公!
寒食文化与寒食风俗
宋代以后,缘于寒食节一百五与清明节长期处在同一令节期间,寒食展墓内容基本相沿不变,但寒食名称历经数百年演变,逐渐被“清明”所替代。南宋吴自牧撰《梦梁录》曰:“清明日,官员士庶俱出郊省坟”;南宋孟元老撰十卷《东京梦华录》中记有朝廷清明节期间(不是二十四节的清明节)有关扫墓活动的安排:“清明节,禁中前半月发宫人车马朝陵,宗室、南班近亲亦分遣谐诸陵坟,从人皆紫衫、白绢、三角子青行缠,皆系官给。节日禁中出车马,诣奉先寺道者,院祀诸宫入坟墓非金妆,绀幰、锦额、珠廉,绣扇双遮,纱笼前导。”明诗人黄省曾写的《洪武宫词》中,有一首为宫廷中扫墓的记实之作:“长春门里清明日,上苑兰风花鸟繁,焚却纸钱啼泣罢,又随龙辇向西园”。
中国地域广阔,历史久远,国人传统的寒食拜墓俗非当是千百年持续不衰,而且所普及之区域也相当广泛。这里不妨重点摘录各地区在明清期间所编修的志书中的一些相关资料。
据《顺天府志》(今北京区域)载:“三月清明日,男女扫墓,担提尊榼,轿马后挂楮锭(纸活),灿灿然满道也。拜者、酹者、哭者、为墓除草添土者、焚楮锭,次以纸钱置坟头。望中无纸钱则孤坟矣。哭罢不归也。趋芳树、择园圃,列坐尽醉,有歌者、哭笑无端,哀往而乐珂,回也……”;《畿辅通志》载真定府风俗曰:“清明男女皆插柳,挈脯糒牲醴楮钱,奠培先垄。事毕,藉草飨馂 ……”;《西安府志》载:“清明予日添土墓上,办香楮巾帕,具酒肴糕饼,招服亲男女诣墓,曰拜扫。祭肴焚楮毕,留少许挂墓头。男女以次分席而飨。少年有携风筝火炮者。此举必在清明前数日,亦古人寒食遗意也。”又“有祭日上新坟,三年乃止”;苏州府《嘉定县志》载:“清明前两日谓之寒食,人有新亡者其家必悲痛,名新寒食。至戚则往,祭其几筵,俗呼排座。三月三日,男女戴荠花……清明前后十余日,士女拈香,阗塞塘路,楼船野舫,充满溪河。附近村坊各以船载楮帛、鸣金、张帜、交纳庙内,堆积如山,名曰‘解钱粮’。又有买卖赶趁货物,戏具及开场赌卜,乡城毕集。”;常州府《江阴县志》载:“清明扫墓,挂白纸钱松揪上”;《武昌县志》载:“清明扫旧墓,挂楮钱,男女环冢而哭。”地处西北地区的《平凉府志》载华亭、固原一带风俗曰:“二月祭墓,葬末十年者,召亲朋或助祭肴,献享毕,乐饮至暮,尽社前止。社后祭十年前墓。如新墓,仪尽百六而止。三月清明祭祖妣,插柳、观河津、赏花、群饮泾上……”;《成都府志》载:“寒食出大东门早宴,移忠院晚宴。大慈寺设厅。曩时(从前)寒食,太守先设酒馔于郊,祭鬼物之无依者,谓之遥享。后置广仁院,以葬死而无主者。乃遣官临祭之。而民间上坟者各集于郊外。天禧二年(1018),赵公稹尝开西楼亭榭,俾士庶游观,太守会宾僚凡浃旬(十日),此最府庭游宴之盛。近岁自二月即开园,逾月而后罢”;直隶州四川《嘉定州志》载曰:“清明之祭不过社日。清明节首插柳枝,又瓶贮献于佛神。前十日之内后先携具上坟,谓之踏青。男妇随便,此后农工蚕事各趁其忙”;四川西部区域《六全六番志》记载:“清明扫墓,亦挈酒肉具楮钱,遍山谷以祭。是日竞簪柳,家作清明磨,磨米粉为实,赤豆馅于中,外束菜叶如带,名菜卷子,家相馈遣无……”;《杭州府志》载:“清明前三日为寒食节。人家皆插檐柳,虽曲坊小巷亦青青可爱……南北两山墓祭者尤多。提携男女,酒壶淆榼,村店山家分馂。游息至暮则花鼓土宜,捆载而归,尼庵道院寻芳讨胜,各有买卖赶趁等人,无日不在春风歌舞中也。”;江西南昌府俗以清明节以竹悬纸插之,谓之“标坟”;这个省的《抚州府志》记载:“清明扫墓,道路如织,民间皆用大豕肥羊,先路必以鼓吹,归而饮膰,常有醉饱争斗之事”;湖南省永州府《道州志》载:“寒食前后,家家具纸币牲醴,上丘垅祭祖先为额例,谓之挂扫,其妇女逐队出野,哭新奠旧,纷纷如云。”;山东兖州府滋阳、阳谷、曹州、邹县,清明先一日为寒食,士女要“登墓标楮钱,增新土于冢上”,这个府的定陶县,清明“少长皆戴柳枝,……女者嫁者归宁(回娘家归宗)。”;云南《顺宁府志》载:“清明有拜扫之例,郡人先后行之”,志书称此俗为“诚谨可风,不类登游侈靡也。”;广右垂镇——广西《平乐府志》载:“清明祭墓,新葬老少聚哭,远年则否。”辖地海南岛的《琼州志》载:“清明男女插柳,以米易海蛳咂之,”岛上的澄迈县,清明节则要“先期添墓土,除草莱,曰拔墓 。至期,男女带酒肴上墓,张挂纸钱,宴饮而归。”;地处沿海福建《兴化府志》载:“清明各家以鼠曲和米粉为稞,具醴展谒丘墓。”;福建《漳州府志》:“清明插柳户上,是日多墓祭,闾巷妇人或有盛服靓妆,带蔷薇花出郭,逐队行者。”福建《福宁府志》:“清明家插柳于门,履先茔,扫松揪,具牲醴羹饭祭墓。会族享馂。有新入葬者则曰登新墓。祭礼倍厚,大会亲族于茔次。”寒食清明节中华大地“千家皆展墓,九原飞纸钱”,“生身不忘宗,千里赶上坟。”此俗台湾宝岛也不例外,据《台湾府志》载:“清明日人家展谒坟墓,舆步壶浆,络绎郊原,祭毕籍草衔杯,递为酬劝,薄暮乃归。”
不知你是哪里的朋友,我们这里也有这说法,你可以避开这一天,其他的日子都可以。不论是女儿,孙女,还是别去犯忌讳,免得老人不高兴!
说真的我不知道有这些讲究,我今天还回娘家了,而且我老公还带着我们一家还有我妈,我侄子,外甥女出去玩了一大圈,还去了烈士陵园。现在是新社会了,应该没有那么多的讲究吧。我记得去年我还带着我妈,我婆婆还有孩子们也去得烈士陵园。也许一个地方一个风俗习惯。
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