If you want to be happy with your parents, you should think of living with them peacefully. Sometimes, there are many troubles between parents and children just because they don't know how to live peacefully. Basically, children should not argue with parents when parents say any words whatever right or wrong. Try to look at their eyes and pay attention. That is polite to them. You will find the advantages of it.
如果你想愉快地与父母共处,你应该考虑如何与他们和睦相处。有时候,孩子和父母之间总是存在着大大小小的矛盾,却仅仅是因为他们不知道如何和睦相处。最基本的,孩子不应该在父母说话的时候与他们顶撞,无论父母说的对与否。并且眼睛要时刻注视着父母,集中注意力。这对大家来说是一种尊重的方式。你即将找到这样做的好处。
1. make a list of the things that you and your parents fight about the most.
2. identify(确定) what it is that gets you so upset or angry--are you mad that your parents disagree with you, or are you upset that they can't/won't see your point of view3?
3.decide on a fair compromise (和解,妥协)--a resolution (解决)that you can live with and that you think your parents' will accept. note: a compromise means you give up some of your demands--it does not mean that you get your way4.
4. set up a time to talk to your parents, do not just bring it up over dinner but make an actual ap- pointment and tell them that you have an important proposal(提议,建议) to make.
5. bring your notes with you to the meeting so you can stay on track if/when emmotions get high. you may even want to consider reading the note to your parents like a speech.
6. before talking to your parents, take a few deep breaths and think calming thoughts. make a promise to yourself that you will not raise your voice or get angry even if your parents "turn up the volume."
7. when you have presented your case(实情, 情况)take another deep breath and let your parents talk. really listen to what your parents have to say. even if you do not like what they are saying hold back your anger and keep your ears and mind open.
8. avoid shutting down or growing frustrated5. avoid interrupting them or jumping in with a rebuttal(反驳). just listen and absorb what they say.
9. if your parents reject your proposal, stay focused and avoid getting emmotional (情绪激动的). thank them for their time and express your disappointmentthatyoucouldnotreacha compromise.
10. if your parents accept your proposal, be grateful and assure them that you will not let them down. then do everything necessary to show them they made the right decision in going along6 with you.
11. whatever the outcome, besure to do what your parents ask of you. by going along with their wishes you build trust and show your maturity(成熟) which in turn may make them more willing to relax their stand at a future date.
12. if the topic is a very sensitive one and you still can't see eye to eye,ask your parents what they need from you in order for them to consider your proposal.
13. make a vow(誓言,誓约) to give them what they need and ask them if you can agree to revisit the subject in a few weeks time.
14. if the outcome disappoints you, do not throw a fit7.go to your room and write your feelings in a journal or go outside and ride your bike or punch(猛击) a pillow to blow off steam
If you want to be happy with your parents, you should think of living with them peacefully. Sometimes, there are many troubles between parents and children just because they don't know how to live peacefully. Basically, children should not argue with parents when parents say any words whatever right or wrong. Try to look at their eyes and pay attention. That is polite to them. You will find the advantages of it.
the
youth
how
to
get
on
with
their
parents
is
a
problem.
here
are
some
tips
for
how
to
get
well
with
parents.
first,
do
what
your
parents
tell
you
and
then
go
home
on
time
when
the
classes
are
over.
when
coming
back
home
,
help
your
parents
with
some
housework.
the
last
is
to
take
your
parents
as
friends
and
make
your
parents
be
proud
of
you.
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